Now what?

  • Cowbee [he/him, they/them]
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    4 months ago

    Try men and see if there's a spark that was missing 👍

    Or you could be Asexual, or express sexuality in a less standard manner, which is fine as well!

    • EmoThugInMyPhase [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      Well, I don’t think so. I still get hard from just walking at a funny angle and think about being with women all day. I think I was just nervous and didn’t know what I was doing rather and thinking about myself too much instead of being in the moment. But you may be right on the non standard expression. She ran her hand through my hair and kissed me which got me going but then she stopped and I’m just laying there like puzzled

      • Cowbee [he/him, they/them]
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        4 months ago

        Having a strong emotional connection makes sexual acts a lot better for me, along with buildup and foreplay. If those weren't important for most people, then stress balls would be far more popular, but sex is a combination of various emotional factors, kinda like getting good sleep or eating good food.

          • Cowbee [he/him, they/them]
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            4 months ago

            Haha, that makes sense.

            Still, plenty of people on the Asexual spectrum enioy thinking of sex, but don't like doing it in practice, and some people only enjoy it after extremely strong emotional connections. It's a spectrum, after all.

            Don't get too caught up in one interaction.

      • booty [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        Oh, yeah, first time notoriously sucks no matter what. Especially if you're both inexperienced. Next time will be better.

        • someone [comrade/them, they/them]
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          4 months ago

          My first time was amazing. My childhood best friend's girlfriend and I made a mess of a hotel room paid on his credit card without his prior knowledge.

          In our mutual defence, she and I were both getting sick of his MGTOW/men's rights shit, and we were both creeped out by his behaviour towards my recently-acquired 10-year-old step-niece.

          • booty [he/him]
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            4 months ago

            lol, yeah I admit I was being hyperbolic. Some people have great first times. But it's definitely rare.