There's some guy I talk to who believes the theory that the top 20 percent of dudes get 80% of women, and that because he doesn't have a brad pitt jaw and isn't 6' +, he might as well just hate women because they'll never like him anyways.

  • kivork [he/them]@lemmygrad.ml
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    4 months ago

    It's absolutely false. Go outside and look at couples walking around or in restaurants. Our perceptions of actual romance are so skewed. Most people are just kindof normal looking. In reality its like the top 90 percent of men get 90 percent of women

    For women on dating apps there is a huge amount of risk to their safety tied to any match. So if the vibes aren't immaculate or the vibes are good but the person is just pretty cute then it might not be worth the risk.

    For men seeking women there is a question of whether the match will be a disspointment or a waste of money. But for women it's am I going to die. So of course only a tiny percent of men on effectively anonymous dating apps pass the vibes and initial attraction tests to be worth that risk.