Abracadaniel [he/him] to neurodiverse • 4 months ago

Anyone else averse to exhibiting intentionally silly behavoirs in mostly public social environments?

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Anyone else averse to exhibiting intentionally silly behavoirs in mostly public social environments?

Abracadaniel [he/him] to neurodiverse • 4 months ago

I noticed a trend in some online interview show recently where hosts ask guests to bark like a dog. I really bristle at that, it would be tough to convince me you don't want to just laugh at me.

I went to Ren Faire for the first time recently, and had a hard time picking an outift to wear because I didn't want to stand out as no-fun, or as being enthusiastic but failing in execution. once I was there of course it was easy to see what an appropriate outfit is.

anyone had similar experiences/thoughts? I realized that I'm averse to being intentionally silly.

it feels like I've had to work hard in my life to not be unintentionally silly or weird (masking), so situations that ask "hey, be weird" leave me very guarded at first.

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HamManBad [he/him]
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4 months ago
Corporate jobs insert a boss right into your head somehow. And it never really goes away

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- TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]
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  That's why Roland Barthes' speech about "killing the cop in your head" is so inspiring.
  
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