So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
Tell them you love them when you are absolutely sure that you do, and when you are certain you are willing to commit to this relationship for a longer time.
No need to rush it, especially if they have not said anything along those lines yet either.
Edit: As for "When do I know that I truly love them" I'd say that's the case when you not only feel attracted to them, but also actually care about their wellbeing. When it hurts you to see them hurting, or when it brings you joy when they are happy, that's probably love.
Thanks, I think this helps. I'm still figuring out my feelings toward them, even if they are very positive.