• aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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      Are you really not seeing the issue? This could easily be interpreted as "I don't find you physically attractive", even if it wasn't intended. Who in the world wants to hear that from their partner? It also could easily be interpreted as negging. Are people not allowed to feel aggrieved by that?

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      • Nocturne Dragonite@lemmygrad.ml
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        5 months ago

        Then if she literally didn't then y'all have done impressive some mental gymnastics to arrive at the conclusion of "she thinks he isn't attractive" lmao

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            • Moonworm [any]
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              5 months ago

              That really is not the part of the comment that's in question as being hurtful. It is the preceding, "I would not fuck you". There is still an understanding that they would fuck in the context of knowing each other, etc. But is it really not just a little bit not great to hear your partner say something that amounts to, "If you were just like somebody who meant nothing to me and I was evaluating in physical terms, I wouldn't hit that shit"? And I'll reiterate, I don't think that was the intended meaning, certainly not the intended main point. But, as continues to be demonstrated, there are a whole fuck lot of men who would interpret this remark as calling them ugly.

    • SchillMenaker [he/him]
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      5 months ago

      She literally says he wouldn't be a FWB to her, the implication being that she's not attracted to him in that way. If this guy came back and said "I listened to that Jimmy Soul song and I realized that you could really make me happy for the rest of my life so let's go for it" would the expectation be that she's cool with that?

      • Nocturne Dragonite@lemmygrad.ml
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        5 months ago

        How is that an implication? She says he's worth more than a fwb, all that extra shit I have no idea where y'all are getting from cause she never said he wasn't attractive

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          • Nocturne Dragonite@lemmygrad.ml
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            5 months ago

            Naw people have said "it's easily interpreted" and "I don't see how people don't see it's backhanded" and y'all keep implying she said he wasn't attractive, fuck are you on?

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              • Nocturne Dragonite@lemmygrad.ml
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                5 months ago

                You’d just rather be obtuse and feel superior instead of engage with an argument that has been presented several times already.

                I'm engaging, she is being LITERAL, so keep repeating yourself.

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