Just found this in a link and I had to post it- it's eating away at me. It feels like the blog has a lot of huge dismissals of things that make sense to be pissed and sad about (trauma, insults, shame) and seems to be implying they're all the result of narcissism? Now I'm torn as fuck because 1. I've only been stable due to understanding and trying to recover from ADHD based on assuming that adhd exists. But 2. A lot of their observations and conclusions seem true? But also kind of toxic and weird? And I don't want to just give up my only coping mechanism for forgiving myself for being tired all the time.
I dunno it reminds me of Slate Star Codex or old rationalist blogs or any of those kinda blogs that say stuff that includes technically true inputs and sometimes technically true outputs but uses the few correct conclusions to justify a lot of other really fucked up shit
I think by posting this I'm technically seeking approval (narcissist behavior) so I guess I'm one of those now lol
Linked is an example of one of the blog's most disconcerting and confusing articles for me. I mean, in my opinion, spanking IS intrinsically wrong to do. Maybe less so with the yelling but that can cause permanent harm besides just the conditioning of the full context, too, like being scared of objects that were in the situation or feeling guilty about things that weren't actually the thing you did wrong.
Also a lot of their differentiation between internal values and caring about what other people think feels like it's either meant to be much less clear than it sounds or is just blatantly not a thing. The idea that people just don't internalize others as real people with their own autonomous lives and existences is very implausible to me. I think there are people who don't care or find ways NOT to care but...
Also I disagree with the idea that empathy is inherently more narcissistic than sympathy. Autistic people tend to try and empathize with people more than sympathize, and, well, TLA writes...
Of course you feel nothing. Why would you? – it’s not your loss. What’s wrong isn’t your lack of feeling, but that you think you have to feel something, that you have to tell this woman, remind this woman, how horrible is her loss. You think the only way to connect with people is to have their emotions. You think she wants to connect with you. You think she wants your help.
The problem isn’t your lack of feeling, it is that you think that unless you feel it’s not real. You forget that she has a life that doesn’t have you in it.
WHY DID SHE BRING IT UP TO ME IF SHE WANTS ME TO JUST NOD AND MOVE ALONG HUUUUUH
Edit: he has like a dozen articles that all seem to be taking positions on autism that are actually close to neurodivergence theories ahead of his time, countering directly what I just wrote before this. I have no idea what to think. This person is either delusional, a genius, shitposting, or really bad at communicating.
edit: they're just a freudian hitlerite. move along.
I wouldn't go that far, it just seems like someone making reckless assumptions by treating the knowledge of their field as universally applicable and giving them de facto authority on all subjects. Many such cases.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but psychiatry IS a different field from neural and childhood development, right? Like they obviously have to have a vague idea of how it works but expecting them to figure out exactly how NPD arises all by themselves sounds like expecting a general practitioner to do heart surgery all by themselves. So very dangerous and shaky. I'm assuming a lot here about how neural / psychological fields work.
The field seems to be mostly about figuring out how to diagnose and treat mental conditions, not figure out where exactly they come from.
Yeah, like I said, it is impossible to diagnose someone via a random blog post. I've dealt with some awful narcissists in my life so I tend to see it a lot, even when it isn't there. It's far more often just someone with an inflated ego than someone with an actual mental illness.
In the US, a psychiatrist has gone to medical school. A psychologist generally has a PhD focused on a type of psychology, something like social psych, clinical, neuro, etc. and likely already has a lot of research experience because of that.