yeah, spire does seem like the wet dream of "the urban campaign"; as time went by i came to value more the games that don't suddenly pause to play a kinda mid combat miniatures game "in-between all the roleplaying"

as for stress, systems will often have some way of weighing the players down, to kind of ask them what's important enough to them that they're willing to take a gutpunch for it

funnily enough, i am interested in "getting back into GMing" which i have done only under duress years and years ago but kind of wanna start doing again