Don't worry the comments in my family started before I even got into a serious relationship, yet alone had a child! It's so disturbing, I (am a white guy) brought up casually dating a black woman and family members (especially my mom and grandmother) immediately jumped to weird comments about the appearance of my hypothetical future children. The comments gave me the creeps. I know they were trying to be endearing in some messed up way, but it still gave me the ick.