White supremacy and misogyny are part of the same reactionary circles and feed into one another in many different ways. Sometimes it is just as simple as rejecting all ideas of social progress and thereby embracing your new ingroup more thoroughly. Though these groups are not self-consistent, so you eventually reach absurdities. For example, that guy had some east Asian heritage that would have excluded him from ever being truly accepted in the circles he coveted.
The specific details and paths can vary, though. I knew a woman whose family heritage was basically half French and half Chinese (she was herself American). Within the family, there was a ton of white supremacy that favored the French half and looked down on the Chinese half and this peemeated her upbringing. She felt shame at anything that made her feel Chinese in any way and exclusively dated white guys (though she never stated she had a rule about this). So even though this aligns pretty well with my generalizations, in her case there were very specific fucked up family dynamics and her upbringing to blame.
This is the usual way things are, really. The larger social forces echo down through our immediate personal relations, how we are raised, who we interact with, what media we are exposed to, etc, and it is possible to miss that forest for the trees.
Within the family, there was a ton of white supremacy that favored the French half and looked down on the Chinese half and this peemeated her upbringing.
Bleh, I relate to this. I got bullied a lot at school at the height of anti-Japanese fervour in Australia (90s, Pauline Hanson, Japanese tourist jokes). I'm sure I would have gotten bullied anyway for other reasons, but 5-13 year old me excised a lot of Japanese traits (mostly being able speak the language) and leaned more into the British side of the family.
This was also during a time where anime was getting more popular with Australian youth. Very confusing, but also I wasn't allowed to watch TV so idk if tgat mattered.
White supremacy and misogyny are part of the same reactionary circles and feed into one another in many different ways. Sometimes it is just as simple as rejecting all ideas of social progress and thereby embracing your new ingroup more thoroughly. Though these groups are not self-consistent, so you eventually reach absurdities. For example, that guy had some east Asian heritage that would have excluded him from ever being truly accepted in the circles he coveted.
The specific details and paths can vary, though. I knew a woman whose family heritage was basically half French and half Chinese (she was herself American). Within the family, there was a ton of white supremacy that favored the French half and looked down on the Chinese half and this peemeated her upbringing. She felt shame at anything that made her feel Chinese in any way and exclusively dated white guys (though she never stated she had a rule about this). So even though this aligns pretty well with my generalizations, in her case there were very specific fucked up family dynamics and her upbringing to blame.
This is the usual way things are, really. The larger social forces echo down through our immediate personal relations, how we are raised, who we interact with, what media we are exposed to, etc, and it is possible to miss that forest for the trees.
Bleh, I relate to this. I got bullied a lot at school at the height of anti-Japanese fervour in Australia (90s, Pauline Hanson, Japanese tourist jokes). I'm sure I would have gotten bullied anyway for other reasons, but 5-13 year old me excised a lot of Japanese traits (mostly being able speak the language) and leaned more into the British side of the family.
This was also during a time where anime was getting more popular with Australian youth. Very confusing, but also I wasn't allowed to watch TV so idk if tgat mattered.
Sorry you had to deal with that! I'm sure you processed it the only way you knew how. I hope you're doing better now.