mocking and quoting bigots I've seen so far

:liberalism: turns to pit "you know it's hexbear when the tankie pronoun parade shows up to force pictures of pigshit in front of you!"* real quick

[*this is paraphrased, I can't remember the exact original quote]

Or "so suddenly I'm Hitler because i think people calling themselves Fae gender is dumb"

Or "why should i need to learn a new set of different pronouns for every person I meet?" (this followed two comments after "I'm literally not a transphobe, I work with plenty of trans colleagues who feel safe around me" (average lib being scratched in real time by having to acknowledge neopronouns))

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All of these shitheads claimed to be allies when they started interacting but our brilliant pronoun tags immediately made them out themselves as the bigots they are who only pretend to be allies because it looks bad to be openly and proudly transphobic

TL;DR: pitmaduro-katana-1hexbear-non-binary

  • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 year ago

    I just love your pronoun support. It's great to see both the serious ones and the joke ones. Both for the solidarity with our brothers/sisters/niblings and as a quick visual cue that a comment thread is gonna get interesting in a way that isn't supporting bigotry :D

    • booty [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      There are no joke pronoun options on Hexbear. We took a hard stance early that the pronoun tags are serious, without any of our normal silliness.

    • citrussy_capybara [ze/hir]
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      1 year ago

      Manually adding pronouns by customising your display name in settings is something everyone can do on any instance. The difference being it’s mandatory here. Feel free to add your own and join in.

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      The closest to a joke option is "comrade / them", but even that is something you can use in a normal conversation on here, comrade actually works surprisingly well as a gender-neutral pronoun in a leftist space. We deliberately decided against allowing to enter your own pronouns because we didn't want chud trolls to make their "my pronouns are fuck / you" jokes when they wander in, and as a result, we had to make a very inclusive list of neopronouns to not leave any serious wishes for pronouns out. Back then, we also purged a substantial part of our userbase when the pronoun discussion made them let their mask slip. I think we're better off for it, hexbear was actually the first site where i dared to set my pronouns to she / her when i was still halfway questioning and i love that i immediately know how i can adress anybody i interact with on here. even on trans discord servers, i often have to first click on people's bio to see that.

      • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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        1 year ago

        hexbear was actually the first site where i dared to set my pronouns to she / her

        That's kinda beautiful. Thanks for sharing that and the Hexbear background.

        • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          it was kinda wild how long i was on here telling all my trans comrades "wow, somehow what you say reminds me so much of my experiences, even though i'm not trans at all" lol. but still, it helped a lot to have a space were being trans and playing around with your pronoun tags is something that's just normal.

          • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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            1 year ago

            That's really awesome. While I'm cis-(mostly)het, I'm close to several trans people in my life, some of whom have had significant struggles because of their gender. Hearing about such tools for self-exploration and acceptance is wonderful and you Hexbears continue to make my heart happy since federating.

            • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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              1 year ago

              It's such a simple tool and it does so much for people who want to explore their gender or who don't (yet) pass well enough to get gendered correctly or who basically never get gendered correctly because almost nobody just assumes you're enbie. It just instantly creates a space where everybody only knows you as your true self. I hope that other instances reach out to our devs and implement the tag system as well.

        • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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          1 year ago

          To be clear, from what I understand, "niblings" is gender neutral for niece/nephew, not brother/sister (which is just the regular word "siblings" you already know). There could be some disagreement about that. But I call the young person with DID of various genders who I have adopted as e-family my "niblings". I knew the term before because I just wanted to know what the gender neutral for that was.

          • nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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            1 year ago

            Huh. Interesting. I had found it as a similar tier of relation to gender terms for sibling. But now that you mention it I think I recall that usage from before. This has made sense as it seems a mutation of sibling + nb, in a similar manner to enby.

            The term "sibling" itself doesn't seem quite specific enough to me in such usage as while it is gender-neutral, it does so by being extremely general and passive, while my intent would be to affirmatively communicate those of a sibling-tier relation who identify as non-binary genders not linguistically accounted for or acknowledged in recent history.