I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

  • anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]
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    2 months ago

    Man, hopefully it isn't creepy. I always have so many unjustified crushes at a time.

    If I think someone is pretty or if they are nice to me, boom, crush. Other reasons as well, of course, but those seem more justified and being pretty or nice are the quickest ways for me to unjustifiably crush on a stranger.

    I don't always do anything about it but I think it's natural to be attracted to people?

    Maybe spend more time with her before deciding to ask her out though. You may learn something about her you don't like that snaps you out of it. I also get over crushes just as quickly as I get them, maybe because it doesn't actually mean anything but I don't know. And if you want to test the waters just give her an appropriate compliment next time you're hanging out and see how she reacts, like "You look really pretty today" or "I really like your [hair/nails/makeup/etc.]". I genuinely like when women do their nails so I like to compliment them on it because, well, I genuinely like their nails, even if I'm not trying to hook up or date. It pretty much always makes girls light up and blush. But if you do this and she seems uncomfortable by it then you have a good indication not to push further. Just be honest about what you're complimenting and, for the love of God, don't make your delivery of the compliment creepy.