It took me a long time to just start to get over the shame—of looking in the mirror and seeing a fucking creep. Of being ashamed of how uncomfortable I made them without realizing. I think I’m back to square one, here. I literally stopped identifying as a trans woman because it felt like such a joke after what happened with them—it’s hard to discern any difference between me and a straight cis dude
Calling me creepy/stalkerish is kind of out of line. I miss them horribly, I try from time to time to reach out to them—I don’t go to their house and dig through their trash. I don’t even ask our mutual friends what they’re up to. I try my best to not make them uncomfortable. I won’t even go places where they might bump into me.
“Creepy” implies that you think I might assault them, which really fucking hurts.
I don’t know why I bother making this post. It’s an uphill battle. But whatever.
I was just reading Hexbear TOS or code of conduct or some crap. then suddenly there was actually a pretty good bit that basically said that you should be having fun on the website and if that isn't the case you should put your energy somewhere else. I thought that was pretty good advice even at the best of times. regardless of whether the removal of that post is something you agree with or not maybe its still good advice