I realize those two things can go hand-in-hand. I genuinely don’t mean to be offensive and am asking in earnest. I personally was born male assigned at birth, feel pretty male but also hate being male. It’s not that I wish I was something else, I just don’t like being male and can’t relate to most “male experiences” besides having a dick. I don’t know anyone who is not cishet irl, so I could definitely use some education in this area
its different for everyone, but for me i had grown content being a guy but when i started opening up to the possibility that i could be fem, there was this indescribable euphoria that made me hopeful for my future in a way i had never felt in my life. it was then i realized my entire life before then i was forcing myself to fill a role i wasnt meant to fill. after that, i felt much more confident and able to discover who i am.