Like it's only so long until a user there posts a dumbass "Kick Tankies out of Lemmy" meme to try and start shit to get us defedded and hexbears take the bait immediately and pile on to tell them what a dumbass they are.
Like as dumb as the "death to NATO" being compared to "death to the people of NATO" stuff was, blahaj and hexbear are the largest queer instances and I quite like taking part in it and their trans communities, idk it's kinda nice to interact with people who don't have the same kind of hexbear brainrot where I see the words "pumpkin spice", "Maoist cult", "Soyfacing PMC radlib" or "rock stacking" and immediately start to go :sus: mentally, it feels refreshing to be able to talk to an incredibly queer positive community that doesn't have the same kind of internet poisoning as all of us. And it seems kind of assholy that some of the users here just don't give a shit and want to post and dunk until we get defedded by every instance, this isn't like lemmy.ca where they were all dicks that none of us liked anyway and were complaining about us doing hate speech against fucking landlords or lemm.ee where almost every time time a user from there pops their head into our threads here they say something racist or transphobic. iirc blahaj.zone was actually the second most requested instance to federate with in the pre federation discussions due to how good of a queer space it was.
Like their first defed thread was a complete embarrassment because there were a load of users there that actually had positive opinions towards us and then they saw the shitshow happening once from the post reaching active and changed to be way against us which tbh, fair enough.
Edit:
statements from the head mod Ada:
Most of them don't seem to like Hexbear in general so idk how this is going to pan out
I like it. But I was also a regular on /r/Chapo before it was nuked.
Nice to see you again
I like you guys lots ❤️
I hope you don't get disappeared by our Sharky State. Your memes can border on rancid but mostly I'm into it 😎
Edit: Weird, a different image of blahaj appears when you look at this from your instance, do you guys have like a custom emote also called blahaj?
I mean I would expect blahaj to have their own blahaj emote lol.
A lot of the vulgarity is very deliberate. A big part of the site culture is a rejection of the civility discourse that dominated Democratic politics in '16 and to an extent again in '20. We're not just assholes, the handful of brain cells knocking around here do have some logic behind the posting, sometimes.
Idk, the admin Ada does seem to genuinely want to some form of trans solidarity between the instances, and she's said she's willing to put up with some of our bullshit as long as we're not too abrasive over there