• UlyssesT [he/him]
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    20 hours ago

    It's possible for things presented in art to be sensual and sexy without it being cheap and lazy sensationalism. It's a subjective thing, sure, but in broad strokes I can say that the "improvement" in the OP picture is cheap and lazy sensationalism.

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      13 hours ago

      And to be clear, I'm not defending the weird misogynistic shit of the AI cultist. Whatever this "improvement" is supposed to be probably can't even be described as a primarily sexual thing, it seems mostly based on a seething hatred of women in any role except sexual subservience. Which isn't actually sexual, just an example of someone's brainworms around sex.

      I am referring to things people do inside their own privacy. Shame in general is almost entirely useless for making oneself less brainwormed, and I would actually say it's mere existence around a subject is a sign of stigma, which is only really an acceptable thing to be present if we're talking about pedos and animal r*pists who should be stigmatized. But when it comes to consensual sex between adults (or just one adult lol) stigma and shame is really only good for creating weird complexes of having a "better sexuality" than others, or worse, having a "worse sexuality" than others. It's far better to genuinely examine and consider one's sexuality and see the ways it might be harming others or where it could be coming from, than it is to judge it off a knee jerk reaction of shame or "weirdness".

      All these ways of policing consensual, adult sexual behavior are pretty much all originating in or synergistic with misogyny, too. There's very specific things about what it's acceptable to be into and all of them happen to be what's compatible with patriarchal family structures.

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      19 hours ago

      Well that's exactly it, when we assume we should feel shame we assume that the shameful and bad portrayals and forms of sexuality are the only ones that can exist. It's like capitalist realism but for sex

      • BeamBrain [he/him]
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        4 hours ago

        This fit my experience growing up to a T. I was a teenager with unsupervised internet access, so a lot of the stuff I "learned" from sex came from material that treated misogyny, slut-shaming, and violence as a given. Discovering work that portrayed sex as something that could be founded in mutual enjoyment and respect was such a watershed moment for me.