As a South African, South Africa is no where near socialist, we're a neoliberal hellhole that just accepted another IMF loan. South Africa also has private healthcare, schools, security, universities for the the rich and the lucky few that can get scholarships, bursaries or sponsorship. South Africa is also statistically the most unequal country in the world, I would like to know how the hell that makes it socialist by any stretch of the imagination. Maybe bring up that point to your mom, along with the fact that the rich and petit bourgeois had their wealth basically untouched during the transition to democracy. South Africa also never shut down the police, it's just now the police have to serve the entire country instead of white people. Crime has also statistically gone down since it's peak in the late 90's, but is still very high. Rape and gender based violence is also a huge problem still, but none of this is because South Africa is "socialist" or anything like that