• mathemachristian [he/him]
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    1 month ago

    It made me so much more aware of others around me, non-humans and humans alike. But I'm not gonna lie overall it's had an adverse affect on me. It's more stress mentally speaking, my worries about how to raise my kid got octupled, it opened up space between me and my wife and I feel more alienated from those around me.

    • ButtBidet [he/him]
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      1 month ago

      The kid and wife thing is hard. I'm not gonna pretend that there is an easy solution to that.

      I feel more alienated from those around me

      I gotta say, as I've grown and discarded bad habits (slurs, misogyny, animal abuse, transphobia, social chauvanism, etc), I've always lost people who couldn't grow with me. And it's always been tough and painful. But I always end up meeting newer people that vibe with my new wavelength, and the relationship ends up being much more satisfying than the old "hey let's go to the pub" or "hey let's do brunch" friendship that got left behind. It's a cliche, but do join an org if you can.

      • mathemachristian [he/him]
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        1 month ago

        I am way too stressed out to join an org and wouldn't even know where to start looking. Going to church has become too stressful even and that's just turning up, playing with the kid a bit, chatting and leaving