if you don't know my pronouns, you're either going to guess, go with they/them, or ask me. how can my preference matter until you ask me? if you ask me, I'm going to tell you she/her. if you guess or go with they/them, I'm going to correct you at my first opportunity.
I'm not talking about what people should do before they know. I'm saying that once they do, they/them are not my pronouns and it's incorrect to use them for me.
on this website, if you're referring to me it's because you can see my username so my flair is visible - they/them is consequently not appropriate.
use the flair next to someone's name, what's complicated about this?
Oh, this was never made clear and from an outsider's perspective it looked like you meant that using they/them at any point was transphobic, even when your preferences weren't known
this was in response to a thread that started based on someone saying they would prefer a world where we used no pronouns but they or comrade. I replied that that would suck for me because my pronouns are not they/them. people then started arguing with me that those pronouns must apply to me whatever my feelings. at what point was I not clear that I'm talking about my pronouns?
this would suck pretty badly for me. my pronouns are emphatically not they/them or comrade.
I am explicitly telling you that that’s not true. if you directly address me with they/them knowing that, you are intentionally misgendering. I am far from unique on this and it’s true for some of both cis and trans people.
if you don't know my pronouns, you're either going to guess, go with they/them, or ask me. how can my preference matter until you ask me? if you ask me, I'm going to tell you she/her. if you guess or go with they/them, I'm going to correct you at my first opportunity.
I'm not talking about what people should do before they know. I'm saying that once they do, they/them are not my pronouns and it's incorrect to use them for me.
on this website, if you're referring to me it's because you can see my username so my flair is visible - they/them is consequently not appropriate.
use the flair next to someone's name, what's complicated about this?
Oh, this was never made clear and from an outsider's perspective it looked like you meant that using they/them at any point was transphobic, even when your preferences weren't known
this was in response to a thread that started based on someone saying they would prefer a world where we used no pronouns but they or comrade. I replied that that would suck for me because my pronouns are not they/them. people then started arguing with me that those pronouns must apply to me whatever my feelings. at what point was I not clear that I'm talking about my pronouns?