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This 'struggle session' has cut open a sore of cisnormativity which allows plausible deniability of transphobic action and thought. It's senseless and insensitive to push back against what should be a non-issue. Cis and trans alike, set your pronouns so as to normalize an aspect of trans inclusion that goes some way to dispel cishet patriarchal norms assumed default by almost every space, especially online.

There is no excuse (that hasn't been considered and discussed and where applicable, taken on board) to push back against this as we as a community have. We can (and should) do better.

  • the_river_cass [she/her]
    2·
    4 years ago

    seriously soured me every time one popped in and the impact of that kind of transphobia takes serious time and emotional reserves to manage. it really doesn't take many of them in addition to the huge outpouring of well-meaning but ignorant and repetitive questions to overwhelm someone emotionally.

    • QuillQuote [they/them]
      1·
      4 years ago

      Glad you're here, and thankful for your dedication to this community

    • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
      2·
      4 years ago

      Yep, you are absolutely correct. Hopefully this gets taken care of right here and we can go back to posting pig poop balls and garfield porn. If you have any problems feel free to message me or the other mods :)

      • the_river_cass [she/her]
        1·
        4 years ago

        appreciated :). I think the biggest thing people (speaking generally) can do to reduce the impact of these things is just to manage their own sense of entitlement and especially what they're projecting on others, three times so when the person you're talking to is a member of a political minority that's dealing with a lot of shit at that moment of time.

        • itsPina [he/him, she/her]
          3·
          4 years ago

          Yeah like if you are ignorant on the history or need for Neopronouns just fucking READ about it, dont ask some dumb question that can be taken offensively. Sure if you actually need a clarification ask someone but PLEASE don't just say "duhh i dont get neopronouns whats the point? doesnt he her they work duhhh" esp when 1000 people have answered it already