Hello comrades, it's time for our first discussion thread for The Will to Change! Please share your thoughts below on the first two sections of the book. There's quite a lot to talk about between hooks' discussion of masculinity discourse within feminist circles, the ways both men and women uphold patriarchy, and the near universal experience of men being forced to suppress their rich emotional worlds from a young age. I'll be posting my thoughts in a little bit after I'm done with work.
If you haven't read the book yet but would like to, its available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it) Let me know if you'd like to be added to the ping list!
Our next discussion will be on Chapters 2 (Understanding Patriarchy) and 3 (Being a Boy), beginning on 12/4.
Thanks to everyone who is or will be participating, I'm really looking forward to hearing everyone's thoughts! 
I've accepted that I won't cry when my father dies. I've thought about him dying often and even sometimes wished it would happen. He was never abusive to me or ever an active harm to me, but I can't remember a single time I felt like he loved me. We live together but never speak. I've wished he were gone because, like hooks writes, I think my life would be easier without him.
Reading the preface felt like I was reading my own subconscious. I finally found the words for what I've always felt. I don't like the idea that when he dies, I'll never get the love I deserve from him. And I don't like the idea that I can actually repair our relationship before he dies. I don't want to repair anything. I simply hate talking to my father and can't fathom him expressing an emotion or listening to any of mine. But, this book has really forced me to look at my feelings and re-evaluate them.
This is a good read.