Hello comrades, it's time for our first discussion thread for The Will to Change! Please share your thoughts below on the first two sections of the book. There's quite a lot to talk about between hooks' discussion of masculinity discourse within feminist circles, the ways both men and women uphold patriarchy, and the near universal experience of men being forced to suppress their rich emotional worlds from a young age. I'll be posting my thoughts in a little bit after I'm done with work.
If you haven't read the book yet but would like to, its available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it) Let me know if you'd like to be added to the ping list!
Our next discussion will be on Chapters 2 (Understanding Patriarchy) and 3 (Being a Boy), beginning on 12/4.
Thanks to everyone who is or will be participating, I'm really looking forward to hearing everyone's thoughts! 
I'm the youngest of three boys so the stuff about the rigidity of patriarchy hurting men really resonates with me. My dad died 6 years ago and although I'm the youngest by a good margin; I definitely 'grew up' the most after my dad passed. The entire pursuit of being the one doing the most has really shaped how my brothers and I all act as adults. I spent so much of my youth pushing to keep up with a standard of patriarchy. Even into adulthood I compete with my brothers by thinking I did the best adjusting to the loss of your father.