"If someone we perceive as female doesn't conform to this, we must shun and bully them until they perform feminity to our exact standard."

For some reason the status quo is really obsessed with policing feminity but also the west is so cool and values freedom and individualism, right?

  • MiraculousMM [he/him, any]
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    2 days ago

    Reminds me of a passage I just read in chapter 2 of Will to Change (emphasis mine):

    Psychological patriarchy is the dynamic between those qualities deemed “masculine” and “feminine” in which half of our human traits are exalted while the other half is devalued. Both men and women participate in this tortured value system. Psychological patriarchy is a “dance of contempt,” a perverse form of connection that replaces true intimacy with complex, covert layers of dominance and submission, collusion and manipulation. It is the unacknowledged paradigm of relationships that has suffused Western civilization generation after generation, deforming both sexes, and destroying the passionate bond between them.

    Unfortunately so far in the book she hasn't spoken about nonbinary identities and how they fit into the picture, and based on how the book is structured I suspect she isn't going to, which is a shame.