"If someone we perceive as female doesn't conform to this, we must shun and bully them until they perform feminity to our exact standard."
For some reason the status quo is really obsessed with policing feminity but also the west is so cool and values freedom and individualism, right?
Expression in the west is limited to what kind of car you drive
Watched a video essay the other day about how Pixar’s Cars is actually about this
Don’t remember who played it, maybe @ElChapoDeChapo@hexbear.net ?
Hey now, you are also allowed to pick a sports team's bumper sticker to put on the back of that car
Individualism in the West is just branding/aesthetics instead of actual individual expression.
Self identified "free thinkers" adopting the talking points of their favorite podcasters that have millions of followers.
The amount of shit my son gets for having long hair
Abolish gender
Gendertrauma - a game where several people are put in a submarine. Each of them are trans, but told everyone else is cis and trying to clock the trans person.
What you're describing sounds like a cartoon character and is totally what your average incel wants, a cartoon version of a woman.
Girl is when you're hungry but too lazy to make a meal so you just end up eating a bunch of snacks and then you feel a little sick afterwards
The first thing that popped in my mind was girl Wobuffet. It's been a long day and I'm enjoying a drink, so that's really all I can contribute.
Errrrrrgggghhhhhhhhhh this makes my bones hurt. Internalised misogyny (mine just to be clear) go brrrrrr.
I took me ages to give myself a break from expectations of feminity and even then I still know I struggle with subconious internalised sexism. I hate the patriarchy so much.
Also hard read on men:
woman = big booba unless she is small and petite then no booba is fine (like that isn't just closet ephebophilia)
I gotta be clear that it's not the look I'm against, it's the expectation that what all woman (and non passing people) should have to be to be accepted that bothers me, and gender policing in general.
Reminds me of a passage I just read in chapter 2 of Will to Change (emphasis mine):
Psychological patriarchy is the dynamic between those qualities deemed “masculine” and “feminine” in which half of our human traits are exalted while the other half is devalued. Both men and women participate in this tortured value system. Psychological patriarchy is a “dance of contempt,” a perverse form of connection that replaces true intimacy with complex, covert layers of dominance and submission, collusion and manipulation. It is the unacknowledged paradigm of relationships that has suffused Western civilization generation after generation, deforming both sexes, and destroying the passionate bond between them.
Unfortunately so far in the book she hasn't spoken about nonbinary identities and how they fit into the picture, and based on how the book is structured I suspect she isn't going to, which is a shame.
