Yeah no, fuck that shit. Not going to be lectured about how we should handle woman haters with kid gloves because they can't handle rejection.

Like holy shit apparently getting rejected is only hard for cis men and it's really fucking important. Guess what, it sucks for women just as much. Women get rejected too, but no one cares. Hell, no one even believes it because that sexism runs deep. Wait, actually no it sucks more for women because dating isn't just putting your pride on the line, it's risking assault and verbal abuse everytime too. Oh but on top of that they get to hear from incels (and the media) about how easy it is for women to date. But again, no one gives a shit, because they're women, so who cares.

Meanwhile everywhere you look the media is discussing "Oh these poor frustrated young men. What a crisis. Oh those mean feminists! What do we do?" Because shit that's just silently accepted as normal for everyone else to go through is apparently a crisis if it happens to a cis dude.

I'm not going to accommodate a scratched misogynist any more than I would a scratched liberal.

  • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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    15 days ago

    I mean, it seems more constructive to say there is a general loneliness crisis, affecting women, NBs, and even non-incel men.

    • iridaniotter [she/her]
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      15 days ago

      Correct, but the fact that men are singled out as the group suffering and the association of this partially constructed phenomenon with not having women available shows that it's an entitlement crisis (symptom of patriarchy in crisis).

        • MiraculousMM [he/him, any]M
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          15 days ago

          but it's not a constructive approach, nor is it a way to find an actual solution to the problem so that more people don't need to suffer from what these systems do. Are you in the bell hooks reading group? She explains something to this effect right in the opening of Will to Change.

          I can't believe this is happening again, how many people are reading Will to Change and concluding that the book supports defending incels??? Y'all need to be involved in the fucking reading group so we can excise these brainworms, jesus fuckin christ

        • iridaniotter [she/her]
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          15 days ago

          Like I've said, I agree there's a general loneliness crisis due to the continued development of capitalism. The gendered component (grievances) is based on entitlement, so any "decent male" suffering the "male loneliness crisis" is either just a man experiencing the universal loneliness crisis, or a not-so-decent man who wants a GF.