Special interests aside of course
Man. I don’t have sensory issues with wearing whatever, but I’ve been getting grilled lately for not being “fashionable” and some people in my life have even gone as far to say that’s why I’ve historically had trouble dating/making friends.
Tbh, I just wear whatever is easiest to put on- if that’s a polo and jeans at the top of my clean laundry, then so be it. If one of my last clean outfits is a flannel and khakis in my closet, then it’ll be that. If it’s a logo t and jeans? You get the picture. But apparently there’s something wrong with that and I need to be “more fashionable?” As someone who is color blind, I’m not exactly sure how I’m supposed to tell what colors best suit my skin tone/go well together. Like I said it all feels the same, so I’m not sure why something so minor would make or break continuing to hang out with someone but it seems like that is that case :/
Reading between the lines, it kind of sounds like you're talking to some people who have a very limiting view of clothing. The clothes you wear matter because they inevitably express something about yourself, but that doesn't mean you have to meet certain arbitrary standards (like 80% of people do not pick colors based on their skin tone.) If you're someone who prioritizes comfort, your clothes will tell people that, and maybe in certain social situations a few people will be less interested in talking to you, but I'd wager that it was already more trouble than it's worth to try to gain their approval.
Most of my outfits are black jeans and black band tees tho. Low effort but reasonably cool by some standards, including mine.
I just wear band t shirts and shirts that look nice to me 😅 so I guess that’s how I express myself