Special interests aside of course

Man. I don’t have sensory issues with wearing whatever, but I’ve been getting grilled lately for not being “fashionable” and some people in my life have even gone as far to say that’s why I’ve historically had trouble dating/making friends.

Tbh, I just wear whatever is easiest to put on- if that’s a polo and jeans at the top of my clean laundry, then so be it. If one of my last clean outfits is a flannel and khakis in my closet, then it’ll be that. If it’s a logo t and jeans? You get the picture. But apparently there’s something wrong with that and I need to be “more fashionable?” As someone who is color blind, I’m not exactly sure how I’m supposed to tell what colors best suit my skin tone/go well together. Like I said it all feels the same, so I’m not sure why something so minor would make or break continuing to hang out with someone but it seems like that is that case :/

  • Mardoniush [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    You don't have to be fashionable. But it might be good to cultivate a sense of personal style. What clothes do you just think are neat. Hats? waistcoats? Odd streetwear jackets? 90s designer Cargo Pants with the sewn-in drop boxers? Activewear in nauseating 80s fluro? Full 1680s court ensemble? You can wear it!

    Now, most of your ideas and early attempts will be awful, but you kind of have to be awful for awhile as you find your groove. Not everyone will like your fashion even then. But some people will really like it.

    Wear what you like, and as you do, research how to make it look even better. Then ignore that advice, realise your terrible mistake, and roll back to something uniquely you.