My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.
Update:
Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.
Yeah. In my life I've definitely had people kind of beat the whole "think before you speak" type stuff into me. Conditioning is definitely a large part of it.
I think the 1% of the time thinking before you speak is necessary is probably when people are in mourning and that's about it. Oh and ensuring you aren't using slurs