My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.
Update:
Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.
I mean generally if you stay friends with them and aren't creepy even if they say no then there's no issue I can think of that makes sense. Most of the issues probably come from people who ask about romantic compatibility and just drop people after getting a no which probably hurts a lot if the person being asked wanted to be friends
Yeah mostly agreed, but unspoken social rules can be devious little punks sometimes
yeah my understanding is this is kind of pervasive within opposite gender friendships and sucks majorly, definitely a dudes being raised to be Not Normal or Decent about womxn type of thing :(