My last crushpost got a little weird. They usually don’t get much attention, and what little there is I think is usually men. So this thread should be a good opportunity for women and enbies to bring up what you find problematic.

Update:

Thanks everyone for responding. I have read all the replies and am giving them serious consideration. I will stop crushposting, I deleted all the posts, and deleted the meat of this post as well. Weird or not, however obfuscated, it’s still an obsession and a privacy concern.

  • Parzivus [any]
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    6 days ago

    A man asking a women if they're a lesbian is usually not going to be a fun conversation for the woman

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      6 days ago

      For me that's mostly because of the men who react to "i'm a lesbian" with "rly tho?"

      • SocialistDovahkiin [she/her]
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        6 days ago

        Yeah this is the impression I got from how this kind of thing usually goes. At least for me I'd rather have someone ask directly and then not be weird about it then circle around trying to Sherlock Holmes my sexuality.

    • Kuori [she/her]
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      6 days ago

      I don't think this is about making sure the women are comfortable tbh. it seems more like it's about the posters in question not having to risk making it obvious that they're interested romantically in someone who might not be interested in them.