not a perfect analysis, since Mickey is only human, but some worthwhile thoughts from a queer ND leftist therapist
edit: the stuff about how this behavior can echo that of the evangelical church made me realize how much of my experience the past few months had awakened religious trauma for me and was a huge catalyst for lessening my activity on this site.
i appreciate your bluntness, and sorry for the vaguepost — i was venting, and i had few spoons. you did give some meaningful insight.
in the main case i had in mind: it was an internal discussion to drop principles like anticapitalism to 'concede' to the right in 'good faith', both to appeal to a larger audience of radlibs and with the idea that if the right doesn't concede on something then they'll look mean and extremist. i and others pushed back, and we were told our 'uncompromising attitude is toxic'. this isn't a new experience for me, and so i was looking for a sanity check.
but i take away from your comment that it's probably not worth the struggle session if there's no potential in the organisation anyway, or if the issue doesn't need a (satisfactory) resolution to still achieve something. everyone might benefit more from an amicable split rather than an argument that leaves everyone bitter.