I'm not saying crucify them, geez, I'm just explaining why it's sometimes touchy despite generally being "the default when you don't know". That user is talking about how they were around at the time and knew her/were driven away by her, so idk, it's not 100% unreasonable, esp considering gender figures heavily in her username, but it's also almost certainly a misunderstanding. Still, no reason to be hostile to a minor correction either. It's fine.
lotta liberals out there using "they" in an aggressive way? sure if you say so. In my experience liberals arent smart enough to know how to use the word "they" properly.
I've had it done to me before I started using she/they with the intent of refusing to accept that I'm a "real woman". It tends to be used as a way to refuse to use someone's correct pronouns, and instead handwave their identity as unimportant, but the lib still gets to feel progressive. Imo it's only proper to use they/them as a default when you have no way of knowing someone's pronouns.
oh it absolutely happens. i know a dude who self-ids as strictly gay but is dating a pre-everything trans woman and exclusively refers to her with they/them pronouns. just as a fun example.
just bc you haven't encountered a behavior doesn't make it imaginary, and this one is harmful to trans people.
Good thing I didn't say that
I'm not saying crucify them, geez, I'm just explaining why it's sometimes touchy despite generally being "the default when you don't know". That user is talking about how they were around at the time and knew her/were driven away by her, so idk, it's not 100% unreasonable, esp considering gender figures heavily in her username, but it's also almost certainly a misunderstanding. Still, no reason to be hostile to a minor correction either. It's fine.
lotta liberals out there using "they" in an aggressive way? sure if you say so. In my experience liberals arent smart enough to know how to use the word "they" properly.
I've had it done to me before I started using she/they with the intent of refusing to accept that I'm a "real woman". It tends to be used as a way to refuse to use someone's correct pronouns, and instead handwave their identity as unimportant, but the lib still gets to feel progressive. Imo it's only proper to use they/them as a default when you have no way of knowing someone's pronouns.
It's a Thing, yeah, idk what to tell you
oh it absolutely happens. i know a dude who self-ids as strictly gay but is dating a pre-everything trans woman and exclusively refers to her with they/them pronouns. just as a fun example.
just bc you haven't encountered a behavior doesn't make it imaginary, and this one is harmful to trans people.