this stems from another conversation on this site.

a commenter used the pronoun "they" because they didn't know the gender. Commenter could have looked at an inactives users profile to see the pronouns were she/her, but they didn't.

So the question is: is it wrong to use pronoun "they" when you simply don't know or needed to know the gender? I was told that "liberals" use it aggressively/offensively to trans people, but most liberals i know aren't smart enough to know about pronouns and how to use them properly.

I've been using "they" to admit gender ignorance all the fuckin time so im just trying to see if im wrong or not. Because ive never heard of this before. and i thought this site had told me everything by now lol

edit: thank you all for the comments. ill certainly try to remember to check pronouns of inactive accounts before i talk about them, but we need to be able to debate from a reasonable position and jumping to "HOW DARE YOU SAY THEY YOU LIB" isn't going to do shit. Lenin created schools to educate workers, Hexbear is our school. and i fucking love this school.

  • citrussy_capybara [ze/hir]
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    1 year ago

    The missing context and links are:

    Defending using the wrong pronouns when people aren’t around anymore or are controversial. (specifically TransComrade69)
    https://hexbear.net/comment/3889674

    yes, how dare that person(who commented above) not click the profile link and check out what a long inactive and once problematic admin preferred, instead of defaulting to "i don't know." What an egregious crime.

    https://hexbear.net/modlog?page=1&userId=3333

    The correct response is “Thank you for correcting me, I’ll edit the correct pronouns in”. Not “I’m leaving the wrong pronouns in anyways because I didn’t know and actually you’re an asshole for correcting me and expecting me to check a trans person’s pronouns if I don’t know them.”

    edit: The above is all about OP being disingenuously vague and not you.

    • Egon
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      3 months ago

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      • citrussy_capybara [ze/hir]
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, that wasn’t about you, that is the missing context from OP. It’s vagueposting to excuse defending using the wrong pronouns for specific trans people. Of course they/them for unknown people is fine and best.