I would say that also sometimes folks are mistakenly thought to be picking a fight and can get a bit singed. But I can live with experiencing a little bit of hurt feelings and char (Maillard reactions produce excellent flavor) if it means that people from groups that actually face oppression are safer.

But, I have also seen exactly what you're mentioning. And there are some users who are absolutely obsessed with painting Hexbears as evil and requiring defederation - I blocked one from shitjustworks because I got tired of seeing their obsessive postings trying for "gotchas".