So there's this woman I've been friends with for a few years. For most of that time she was in a relationship, but quite a while back she broke up with her boyfriend. She's part of this small group of people I see in person to not go insane from social isolation. Hanging out with her the past couple months has been different, she's been so much more vibrant and confident, and I think we've been flirting, I've been trying to flirt with her a bit, I think she's been flirting back, I never was very good at it, and I'm kinda hampered with having had both my parents being abusive and all my exes being shitty in various ways (codependancy, woo!)

Anyways, I kinda like her and would like to ask her out, but we're in the middle of a terrible pandemic.

I prefer asking in person, but I'd need a neutral space for that (eg, not her place or my place), the only things I can think of are asking to hang out at a park, and then asking on a date at the end of the hang out sesh, which I feel is kinda weird. Asking to hang out at a park, so you can ask on a date, probably to the same park.

Or I could just deal with my own anxiety and text.

What do y'all recommend?

Also what to actually do as a date if she accepts? I don't feel comfortable going to a cafe or patio bar, but we could get coffees to go and hang out at a park. Or I could bring like a thermos and cups.

Ideas?

    • WetAssPossum [they/them,ey/em]
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      4 years ago

      Playing music together could actually be a pretty cute date, unfortunately my hand is still broken, so it'd be a bit difficult. I mean, I think I could play harmonica one handed, and she did find it fun the night I was drunk and sang Hallelujah I'm a Bum, which is good because the only harmonica songs I know are those old Hobo IWW songs or about how the confederacy was good actually. And you're right, I should stop being coy and beating around the bush. Regardless of what happens we'll still be friends.