you are not wrong in so far as the mainstream culture in USA and other similar places, so much of it exists within a realm of domination and seduction over any real connection
this makes finding intimacy very difficult within the mainstream because most cis folks (and a good chunk of 'accepted' queers) are just going to be expecting that type of transactional sexual relationship at first
I'd recommend seeking out people and groups that value non-sexual intimacy or emotional openness, since you are much more likely to find others interested in actually connecting with you as a person, and the community around those people will increase your chances of encountering intimacy that might become sexual if the feels are right
you are not wrong in so far as the mainstream culture in USA and other similar places, so much of it exists within a realm of domination and seduction over any real connection
this makes finding intimacy very difficult within the mainstream because most cis folks (and a good chunk of 'accepted' queers) are just going to be expecting that type of transactional sexual relationship at first
I'd recommend seeking out people and groups that value non-sexual intimacy or emotional openness, since you are much more likely to find others interested in actually connecting with you as a person, and the community around those people will increase your chances of encountering intimacy that might become sexual if the feels are right
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