I see. Yeah in that specific context I would agree totally and that matches my understanding of the word too. I think this is one of those words where the context matters a lot. If you're saying this in reference to a burger, or a baseball, or a a video game move, or a like button, I don't see this word carrying harm. If you're saying this word in the context of a person, it could carry harm. If it's a man saying it in the context of an action he would like to do to a woman, it probably always carries harm.

So in the specific context of your job if you hear it, it should activate a response for sure. In the specific context of a restaurant or a ball game though I don't think it needs to be tempered. I think the issue here is less the origin of the word itself and more how it is used in the specific context around SA.

It's complicated because some words carry harm in every context, and some words don't.

Anyway thanks for sharing. Curious to see what others think as well.