In hindsight, it was extremely obvious. But it's so easy to chalk up to personal quirks and the default assumption is neuroptypical. Especially if you're over a certain age or part of an underserved group who didn't have access to mental health services.

The worst bit of this is when you're diagnosed at 30+, you ask your parents if they saw the signs or if you were a "good kid" and they're like "oh yeah you were hyperactive as shit lmao"