Who would've known that trying to develop mutual understanding with someone would make them easier to communicate with ??
Even if you're not usually a fan of psychology papers I'd still recommend taking a look through this one. There are a few accounts in there of parents who put in the effort to understand their autistic children that are really sweet. And their bond and happiness is contrasted with examples of people who have the "Autism mom" mentality who are miserable because they keep trying to force their child to act neurotypical to no one's benefit.
And it just so happens to turn out that getting mad at a neurodiverse child for not being neurotypical is... abuse
I feel the same way but to have actual evidence that points to autism often being more of a difference than a deficit in ability to communicate is really good. Will some people still not listen ? Yeah probably.