You are literally victim blaming. The idea that the Atmorans provoked the attack is conjecture and only appears in post-Merethic Era Elven accounts with no concrete sources backing it up. It's literally just Elven supremacy propaganda based on nothing but that the dead must have done something to deserve it.

If the Atmorans were motivated by genocide then why was their first settlement a peacefully created one? The attacks only came after the Falmer slaughtered them all bar Ysgramor and his sons. It was instigated by the Falmer.

And you really can't draw real life parallels with Zionism here. For all we know it's entirely possible that the Atmorans were given life on the Throat of the World through Kyne's Breath. Most of the races of Tamriel have some kind of mythological creation and the Atmorans are no different.