So, I have autism and also very bad social anxiety, so I don't have a massive amount of social interactions, so it is easy for me to remember pretty much all of them. This also means that I spend way too much time obsessing over any significant interactions I have, particularly negative ones, which then just make me feel more upset and anxious than I was at the time and sometimes leads to a breakdown. I am also completely unable to deal with conflict
For whatever reason this website, unlike the original subreddit is way more invested in dunking on each other imo. This site has a very hostile atmosphere where it feels like everyone is constantly at each others throats and it makes me just not want to come here at all.
I also want to take exception to some of the recent posts by @TransComrade69 about the Beyond Pink or Blue book, particularly the part in the original post about it only being like 170 pages, so you could read it in like 3 days, so if you don't, it is reactionary. No, one of the symptoms of autism is executive function issues, which I suffer from quite significantly. I could read that book, but it would require me using a lot of energy and necessetitate me neglecting other parts of my life. I struggle hard enough to read books necessary for classes, if I were to try and read that book, it would take months, if not over a year for me to complete it. So, while I understand why @TransComrade69 wants people to read the book and is pushing it, as I am sure there is lots of valuable information within it, I do not at all appreciate the tone that was taken in parts of the original post.
Anyway, I've deleted this account twice already, and I'm doing it for the 3rd and probably final time after this. Social media in general is bad for a lot of these things, but this site kind of takes it to another level.
I'm not sure what to say that won't wind up with me figuratively eating both my feet. But I'll try anyways.
Even though TC69 didn't usually specify who the bullying was directed towards, its most focused on us normies who get caught up shit posting and wind up muddying the waters when it comes to figuring out which are people actively attacking a transgendered people. Its us normies who wind up providing cover, hopefully unintentionally, for bad actors or bad arguments and refusing to learn that the argument used was a really bad argument or just helped instigate some wrecker's plan. The idea, I think, is to maybe get ourselves out of our heads for a minute to think about our own posts/comments and how we act when reading something that might be wrecker shit and letting it slide instead of calling it out.
It does suck that you specifically and the rest of the /c/neurodiverse crew here at chapo dot chat feel that the aggression is directed towards yourselves when there hasn't been any specific action done to cause harm. I want to think that the mods are doing what they can with the best intentions. I also want to think that they are trying to pay attention to how some of the changes in mod policy might affect you all and try to work... something ... out that might make this place some what less stressful for you all.
(And don't forget to call us libs out on our bullshit too. It'd be killer to see a nerodiverse mod-rade going on a justified remove/ban spree when we all start acting like fools.)