They absolutely deserved to be called out, yeah, I'm not saying give anyone a pass, or again, particularly arguing for this user, nor did I mean to imply that there's beef with you, just was referencing the occurrence as an example

Not to mention categorizing it as 'complaining' is bullshit, and the kind of stuff that's been said to me all my life to get me to shut up when I was treated unjustly, and the exact kind of thing I'm talking about.

regardless, I'm logging off because I feel like I'm coming off completely the wrong way and it's freaking me out