Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them] to neurodiverse • 4 years ago

Comrades with ADHD, do you find people treat you like you're faking it?

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Comrades with ADHD, do you find people treat you like you're faking it?

Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them] to neurodiverse • 4 years ago

I was diagnosed at around 6 years old. Everyone from family to friends to work colleges don't seem to really understand what it means, even when it's plainly explained to them.

I say I can't concentrate and people are like "yeah that happens to me too, I just get over it." and then get frustrated that I can't just choose what to focus on. Like, buddy, I just told you. Do you think I'm making shit up? Do you think I enjoy this? Do you really think this self-help book telling me to drink kombucha is really going to 'cure' me?

I'm not a damn disease.

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QuillQuote [they/them]
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4 years ago
I very much know what you mean and struggle with the same. I found this video was helpful to me with this.

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- ComradeBongwater [he/him]
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  4 years ago
  Saw this video a while back. Absolutely the best description of it I've ever heard
  
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