I've experienced many things and I've met people who experienced the same things and came to wrong conclusions about women
After self criticising I thought about all the moments I would have turned into one if I wasn't a leftist (That post wasn't a joke or misogyny my friend).
How do you deal with people who think they are "nice guys"?
Get them off the computer and take them out for a nice game of catch. Self criticism is super hard in our society because we don't have anything to be proud so just be a good pal and help them learn to be proud of themselves by doing hobbies and activities together. Once we have something tangible from our labor to be proud of, we begin to notice undesirable aspects of ourselves.
Only problem is I'm getting this from people who seem normal, like the only thing keeping them from having success is this "I'm such a nice guy" shit like they can't even see it when I point it out
'Nice guy' mentality is just a cope for dealing with how alienated we are and how transactional our relationships have become. These people see partners as a means to an end; this end varies but for the most part it's a longing for non transactional relationships. I imagine this mentality also gives rise to the nice guy attitude of being anti sexworker. Have you asked them what they want in a partner? Lotta folks don't ever take the time to really think about it.
Bare with me here I was typing something out and I got banned before I could even post @Cuttlefish please let me have this one for the hour, I've done nothing wrong
There's already a gap between those who bug one woman not realizing it will never happen vs the men who rolls through women like a slot machine
These nice guys are their own worst enemy. I tell someone I am literally attracted to them and it's just how they act weird towards women. It just doesn't go through.
So if you're attracted to them but don't like the way they treat women, what do you want from a relationship with them? As Zizek would say "do you jusht want mashterbashtion and sho on and sho on or do you want companionship?"
I got banned twice. Thrice. Four six times trying to type this and my respect for @Cuttlefish has grown for being good at this Sorry but I really want to reply to this user.
I'm talking about a lot of different people I met but usually it goes FFS you are attractive and have good qualities. They complain about not being able to get women not realizing it's that in the first place.