Even other neurodivergent people will enable behaviors that trigger RSD, maybe because it doesn't hurt them as bad, or they've learned to cope with it better, or whatever. But anyway, we aren't approaching the problem of RSD radically enough. We have to change the way we communicate with people on a fundamental level. Anti-ableism isnt just about not using certain naughty words. For neurodivergent people to be safe in society, it requires a completely radical rewiring of how communication works. I don't know how that will work exactly. I understand that sometimes it causes problems with intersectionality (though I think the way people just throw the anti-ableism side of that discussion out the window completely is fucking disgusting, again this is something that even neurodivergent people will do, because intersection is complicated and people don't like complicated things so they jump to one side or the other and for some reason ableism always loses out in those clashses) but I still think its incredibly important.
100% agree -
smalltangent but the way that rsd messes with your relationships to authority figures within the educational system is something that can totally fuck you over even if you perform well within that system.my refusal of reading feedback on assignments and such due to the dread of having to face criticism even from teachers that are "cool" is coming back to bite me in the ass because i just keep pushing it further and further back into my mind bc of rsd even though i logically know that they're trying to help me and it's never as bad as i think it's going to be. even if i know i've half-assed an assignment and i shouldn't care as much about it it still hangs over me like a fucking cloud. & sure learning how to deal with that is part of having (undiagnosed) adhd or something similar but it still sucks.
i have no idea where i was going with this except something like the way we communicate is inextricably tied to our surroundings and giving teachers and nd kids ways of communicating that don't lead to the kind of bullshit that grades are tied up in and so on is probably a small but important step. sorry for rambling you know how it is
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That's very valid thank you for your addition.
oh shit I have ADD and this is something I've also had to learn how to deal with. It definitely sucks.
Correct me if I'm wrong, (and also I'm not trying to own you or anything like that just to be clear) but it seems like you're unaware that ADD was reclassified as ADHD-PI, aka Primarily Inattentive type ADHD. Within the last couple decades, doctors/psyches realized that ADD and ADHD were two different presentations of the same condition so they reclassified everything as ADHD, but added 3 subtypes:
They've also started to refer to them more as presentations of ADHD because the subtypes are more like regions on a spectrum rather than discrete categories, and people with ADHD can be more/less hyperactive and/or inattentive over time or in specific circumstances. For example, I was diagnosed with ADD initially back in the mid 2000s and I'm very much on the inattentive side of the spectrum, but I still display signs of hyperactivity on a somewhat regular basis. Namely I bounce my leg constantly, I pace around my house at least once a day, and I have some troubles with impulsivity and impatience.
TL:DR: ADD is a specific presentation of ADHD, so it makes perfect sense that you've dealt with RSD.
TIL thanks!