Then arguing with people about whether the kernels popping is "justified".
Trying to focus on the slaughter of regular Israelis and whether it's good or evil to attack civilians is just such a ridiculous approach to me. The question has no meaning in this context. If you don't want kernels to pop take the pot off of the flame, if you refuse to do that then shut the fuck up about it.
Like obviously it sucks that everyday people were intentionally killed but the blame is just being put on the entirely wrong place, it's just individualist moralism that works to strip the event of any context. It feels like it's a rhetorical funnel whose function is to push those who engage in this moralizing to the next logical point in the talking-point journey: whether Israel has a right to defend itself.
If you decide to go to someone else's country to take their land you are an active participant in colonial violence not a civilian, no matter whether you wear a uniform or not.
I have sympathy for the children and those descendants of settlers who were born in Palestine but the only way they can achieve security is through a just peace. As long as the zionist entity refuses such a peace, they are endangering their own population by exposing them to the justified resistance of Palestinians.
Those who care about the innocent dead should direct their anger at the zionist entity. All violence in Palestine springs from the occupation and colonisation. Those who decide to maintain the occupation ultimately are responsible for all evils that follows.