Pretty much everyone figures out how to actually socialize, maintain relationships, have new relationships, improve them, and date at high school, MAYBE college at the latest. I'm 30, almost 31. Did I miss the boat on learning that and having a semblance of happiness in my life, and there's no going back.

I've tried it all. I've tried social hobbies, I've tried going out, I've tried putting myself out there. The basics of social skills elude me. I am, at best, a filler friend. I can't see myself being any more than that, and I think it's too late for me to get better.

I think I doomed myself to a life of loneliness, all because of the bad choices I made. The only possible hope I can have is maybe reincarnation is real and I can suck less in the next life.

  • Maaj [he/him]
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    8 months ago

    I'm 31, I'm not as social as I was in my 20s but I was using booze and drugs as a crutch for social interaction anyway. I have some friends, i just don't always remember to reach out and talk to them. Now, I've socially kneecapped myself since I don't drive or have my own place, but I'm working on myself via my IT studies and obtaining my learners permit so that I can get back out in the world by 32, 33 at the latest. My main hobbies are e-skating and video games. Luckily there's a large e-skating community in my city, I'm just not in a position to go on group rides with them yet.

    I guess I'm trying to say that it's not over for you at 30 or even later.