Pretty much everyone figures out how to actually socialize, maintain relationships, have new relationships, improve them, and date at high school, MAYBE college at the latest. I'm 30, almost 31. Did I miss the boat on learning that and having a semblance of happiness in my life, and there's no going back.

I've tried it all. I've tried social hobbies, I've tried going out, I've tried putting myself out there. The basics of social skills elude me. I am, at best, a filler friend. I can't see myself being any more than that, and I think it's too late for me to get better.

I think I doomed myself to a life of loneliness, all because of the bad choices I made. The only possible hope I can have is maybe reincarnation is real and I can suck less in the next life.

  • bigboopballs [he/him]
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    8 months ago

    I'm 33, went on my first date earlier this year, now have two great poly relationships (plus casual dates with other people)

    how did you meet those people?

    how did you get a social life and learn to small talk?

    • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]
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      8 months ago

      Basically dating apps for all of that. I learned to small talk and make good conversation through practice, just talking to a million people on apps and then meeting some of them. And the people I date and my friends are either people I met on the apps, or people I met through those people. I had up to 8 of them installed at one point (I've cut back now) and spent a couple hours a day on them.