Good luck. It isn't easy figuring out what the triggers are or how to voice them.

Oh and one more thing I wanted to say about what violence or abuse actually is is that for autistic folks things like unwanted touching or very bring lights for example can literally be painful (obviously we are not a monolith, everyone is different), but the world making us be in these situations can be also seen as a form of violence imo. And it is also easy to see why someone then would lash out if pushed too far.

We also tend to communicate different and that too needs to be accomodated for.

So please be kind to yourself even when holding yourself accountable.