I was kidding mostly. Though I think in general when people couple up they kinda slide some beliefs towards some kind of equilibrium at least a little. And if you just present things to people and they decide bc they agree or whatever I think that’s fine.

But I do agree one should enter into a relationship accepting that person as they are or else they’re just setting themself up to be disappointed if they’re thinking they can “fix” something about the person that they actually hold dear.