Melonius [he/him]

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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • Did a long flight with the kids that was exhausting but could've been a lot worse. Been working on teaching reading but she keeps forgetting the sounds for letters and its frustrating for both of us. I have to keep reminding myself there's no hurry while balancing out my expectations.

    She does great with a lot of the letters but whenever we see 'M' its "I dunno"


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    Avoid meat and high calorie processed food. Drink tea and eat garlic




  • I try to restrict my bad answers to "I need to think about that one a little" because I genuinely do need to think about them more. Another thing kids are great at that isn't mentioned as much is they will very readily make shit up to explain things. They give me all kinds of reasons for why something happens and those are just the ones they verbalize. For every question they ask there are countless hidden assumptions and contradictions cooking in their heads. Some of them surely get weeded out as they age and learn but all the voluntary things we don't talk about are just baked in to them passively.


  • Chapter 3 gives me a lot dread when thinking about raising my own children. There is this meme that "kids ask the darnedest things" that is supposed to come off as endearing, cute, silly. In my experience, these questions are jolting. They will ask these "why" questions that reveal that they've noticed there is something wrong with the way things are, and if you're lucky you've noticed it too and thought about it already and have a good answer. That answer will be somewhere between an easy lie that's available and you can gaslight them with a fake answer, or that hundreds of years of oppression and shitty propaganda have spawned this garbage tradition/norm/activity you're observing. You can probably get away with participating in it too if you meet all the criteria, but if you don't people might notice and single you out. I am being a little dramatic but not really?

    I don't have a great idea on how to navigate those examples brought up like the boy wanting to wear nail polish or going by Ruby. I want to be the kind of parent that is supportive of whatever decisions my kids make especially if they're right, but I'm terrified that they'll be rejected by their peers as they get older. The male loneliness was very relatable to me and not something I want my kids to have to experience. It feels like there is no way to escape patriarchal thinking, best case you can cross some lines but go too far outside the constraints and you'll be rejected by all your peers who are glued to whatever the youtube algo fed them.



  • WRT what hooks says about anger being the only acceptable emotion for men. I went to therapy some years ago to deal with some anger issues and I realized that anger feels like a "safe" emotion.

    I relate to this. In my teen years I kept getting in trouble for my anger, too, so I "learned" to not express that either. When my sister came back home after a long hiatus she said she was impressed with how I had gotten my anger under control. Which yeah was good for everyone else but I have nothing left


  • I hadn't read the preface my first time through and it felt a lot more powerful than I remember the rest of the book being. I think my father did a good job all things considered, he has tons of brain worms but I have trouble casting blame at him. Despite all that one of my youngest memories of him was when he was incredibly angry at me and lashed out at me. When bell hooks talks about that primal moment of heart break and heart ache, I can maybe point to that moment. It was my first memory of being actually afraid of my father.

    I don't hold any resentment toward him for it but I feel our relationship was changed after that. I don't remember why he was angry and I don't remember ever talking about it with him again. I just remember that moment of being powerless and fearful of my parent. He's been a good dad but that one moment is going to be in my head for the rest of my life, and maybe his too.





  • so here the Federal Reserve can sell government-backed securities (US treasuries) at a specific rate (say 2%) to set the minimum price of borrowing

    It's my understanding that treasury rates are set at auction, so these rates can be driven by demand (and not just internally as bidding is done by outside governments). The easier way to affect interbank lending is through interest on excess reserves - https://www.federalreserve.gov/monetarypolicy/reserve-balances.htm

    This very transparently sets a floor while discount window rates sets the cap on interbank lending, and of course feeds back in to the treasury auction results as banks will allocate excess reserves to treasuries if they are paying substantially more than the interbank/fed IOER rates